My personal life was not very typical as I had a love marriage with one of my juniors at a very early age. I was not settled and got married, and from day one, my marriage had challenges, but I kept ignoring all those years, and our fights were very common. She used to work in a school as a teacher, and somehow, we kept the marriage going, and we were blessed with two sons, Kanav and Shourya. As I was busy building the company, I forgot my personal life completely and focused all my energies on building this brand and company.
The primary trouble started when she left the job, and I accommodated her in the company as HR head. However, she started using her position to influence the hiring and firing culture. Front slowly destroyed my image in front of employees, which no one, including me, noticed, and she joined the company in 2005. Our divorce started in 2009, and initially, I thought everything would be normal again, but coming 2010, it became apparent that we couldn’t live together, so I left the house after it, and my sons also went along with me. I didn’t realize that my emotional dependency was entirely on her by that time. I was busy building the company all these years and lost all my friends and relatives, so I became pretty lonely in my personal life. This relationship problem made the company as I was not interested in going home and used to spend a lot of time working and travelling. This also became the reason for the company’s downfall, as the moment I became emotionally weak due to the separation and could not understand my partner’s true colours, I got discouraged with life for a while. So once my divorce started with her, my emotional balance was shaken. I lost interest in the company for two years and tried my best to understand life. My kids also became quite insecure after this episode. I left the company for them for those two years, and the company was doing well and still running on its old strength, but a lot of politics seeped into the company internally.
Employees were confused, and my ex-wife filed cases against me in the police and courts. I got embroiled in that and could not handle the situation emotionally and otherwise. This brought the company down and became the ground for personal insolvency.
My Ex-Wife entered the business.
I never involved my family or friends in the company’s affairs, which has been my strength since its inception. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize this strength till my ex-wife came into the organization as the HR head of the company. This was also one of my costly mistakes, as she wanted importance from the employees and created a lot of commotion. From there onwards, I realized I hardly knew her all these years.
In dealers and distributors, rumours were floated that I have a terrible temper and keep hiring and firing people. I did not realize that she was the one who was pushing me to do the same, and she had an agenda to do it purposefully. The organization also did not accept her as her understanding of the organization was limited, and all my technical people tried to avoid her. She was interfering in all the areas without much experience and technical people who were there and were very close to me felt threatened by her. A few of my close people had to leave the company as she created the situation, which was beyond my understanding. She started such a politics in the company that I was also helpless to understand what was happening around me.
Then one fine day, one of my CFO was found doing fund embezzlement, and an audit report was in front of me, and we filed a police complaint against him, and he was fired from the company. I remember clearly that he pointed a countercase against me that he was having a relationship with my ex-wife. He showed the emails and proofs in the police case, which was a significant blow to me, and the whole organization learned of this episode. I went into depression and stopped going to the office, and she went to the office without any hesitation and interacted with people normally. I realize that she is here to destroy. Slowly our relationship went from bad to worse, and in 2010 I left the house as I was pretty upset with her actions. That was the end of the story of the relationship as I left my house, which I had built for two years and had the comfort of life. Still, I had no choice, as staying with her was impossible and stayed at hotels and then rented a house and started staying separately. As things were going around, I learned much about her past, and she started threatening me with police cases. She started filing frivolous police cases in different police stations to harass me. She created a blog and started going to the press and media to tarnish my reputation. I lost the company’s focus in those two years, from 2010 to 2012. I started living a very different life and didn’t want to meet people or attend phone calls. I tried to be away from my professional life. I met a lot of gurus and read many books on spirituality and psychology, which gave me a lot of different perspectives on life. I focused on my health and used my morning time to do swimming, yoga and going to the gym. My routine was to spend 5 hours in the club in the morning to do these activities and build my body those days.
That was the worst time of my life but probably the best as I learnt a lot about psychological problems and my personal feelings, which I wasn’t aware of at all. She created a big issue of salary mismatch, giving handsome salaries to those closest to her. As a result, most of my trusted people and those who played a significant role in creating Su-kam started leaving the company. The management kept changing, and she projected me as a villain in my organization, which I could not understand initially.
She made a gang of people who were her followers, and the politics in the company became the rule of the day. She joined the company in 2005 and left in 2010.
After leaving the company, she worked even more aggressively against the organization.
I lived 20 years with her, but I feel I failed to understand her. Even during the divorce period and after the divorce period, she kept fighting with me.
She was so manipulative that everything she was doing was acting most of the time, and she was trying to avoid her but never understood her. As I got married again to an ordinary girl now, I realized more that she was not an ordinary girl as there was no resolution to our fights; we never sat to resolve the disagreement, and it was always my fault, and that’s it.
She kept filing police complaints and court cases against me until today; I’m fighting court cases she filed on various charges even after the divorce settlement.
Unfortunately, I could not settle my children after having so much knowledge and strength. I realized that our destiny governs us, and no one can make or destroy any individual’s destiny. Fate takes you to places, and it creates situations where you meet the right people or wrong people and make the right or bad decisions in those situations.
Since I was hardly going to the office and trying to avoid people interaction, the company was managed by professionals who showed me sales. Still, the company had mounting debt as the profitability was on paper only.
In the meantime, my kids also came to me, and they didn’t want to stay with my ex-wife; their emotional challenges were there, and we all stayed together. They started taking an interest in the company but had no experience running it. They got such a big company to run, which became another challenge for me to handle as they created their teams and were driven by the manipulative people in the company. Another level of politics started in the company, as I had hardly any trusted people left. Professionals ran the company, so it was very tough for me to manage the management. I was trying to escape those problems and did not want to run the company. Seeing the destruction in front of me, and felt helpless at times. Since my interest was lost to some extent, I was looking for a purpose in life and could not stabilize to find the same.
Anyway, one day, enough was enough, and I took back the command again and again, started again started working aggressively and put my kids behind and changed the scenario again in the next year, bringing the company back to its strengths and firing people fired lit if people and hired new guys and led from the front. Now another challenge was waiting for me the mounted debt in the company. I made significant changes and showed the losses to the banks, which was shown for the first time in the history of Su-Kam. I didn’t realize this would change my life, as banks didn’t want me to show the losses. The Indian banking system is such that when you establish the losses, they don’t want to lend you and want their money back. So rather than supporting them in bad times, they want their money back which is impossible. So I went for raising private investment and asked banks for the time to restructure the loan, and they took a lot of time to decide. In the meantime, one bank went for bankruptcy proceedings against the company in the new law in NCLT, and another ordeal started for me.